Learn how to Stop Watching FemDom femdom-fetish.org and Fetish Porn? Three Steps to finish Recovery

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A few days again, a viewer on my YouTube channel wrote to me relating to his addiction to FemDom pornography. (View his message and my reply beneath)

What is Female Domination ‘FemDom’ Pornography?

For those of you which have watched my content material on YouTube, I’m positive you’ve heard me call out this style of pornographic content several times prior to now.

Basically what it's, is pornography that focuses on a job reversal where the feminine takes the lead in dominating the male, and making him carry our various humiliating acts. This sort of pornography encourages feminization of males, homosexuality, cuckoldry, emasculation, unusual fetishes and induces a sense of sexual dysphoria in males.

I see this as a lethal social weapon that is getting used to emasculate men. No two methods about it.

Emasculation of men in society:

Its destructive effects are being amplified by things comparable to (1) an growing popularization of such sexual fetishes within the media and pop culture, (2) society turning into an increasing number of feminine-led and feminized, while labeling masculinity as ‘toxic’ and unnecessary (yea right…), and (3) more and more males unable to settle down in healthy relationships with ladies, who're being brainwashed with filth like ‘women don’t want men to do nicely in life’ and ‘all males are potential rapists’.

These are all interconnected elements which might be resulting in a big chunk of men turning to sexual tendencies that aren't masculine or of any profit to a man in anyway.

Methods to stop watching FemDom porn?

Question:

"Hello there I just listened to 2 of your movies as I googled find out how to give up femdom porn and was glad that not less than someone in the universe understands what I’m going via. it’s a very dark depressing place to be and that i lengthy to interrupt these chains of addiction. I’m not currently religious although I do have a way of connecting with the universe or nature if you will. I’m aware that scientifically there's a proof for how our brains reply to such shocking material and how over time our frontal lobes are re wired which makes it very hard to fairly this destructive behaviour. anyway you probably have any strategies or options you want to pass on it can be much appreciated, Thanks."

Reply:

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Hello J,

Appreciate you writing in. I am glad you discovered some consolation in my videos on the subject. Having had related thoughts and habits prior to now myself, I understand how destructive and demotivating it can be. Furthermore, studying the psychology behind such processes over the past coupe of years has re-affirmed to me the ruinous nature of content like femdom, findom, etc.

Identify aims and a plan of action:

Correct me if I’m incorrect, however assuming that your objective is to (i) get over your femdom addiction, (ii) cut back dependence on pornography, and (iii) engage in a wholesome relationship with a girl, I’d suggest you repair things in that order.

(I) STEP 1: Reconditioning therapy (to get over femdom addiction and arouse your self to extra pure sexual tastes): You could have already talked about the science behind this in your e-mail briefly. Practically both try arousing yourself to very common pornography (issues so simple as a striptease). If that is really arduous to do, arouse yourself to some mild type of femdom (could a mildly femdom JOI video), but climax to common porn or no porn at all- simply visualizing regular intercourse. Mentally, this may make it easier to recondition your thoughts to feeling a sense of pleasure to more common sexual acts- an activity that you have desensitized your brain to, by watching extra deviant varieties of sexual acts.

Do that about once a week, for as lengthy because it takes for you to switch over form eager about femdom, to occupied with pleasuring a woman, ‘normally’. If you have a habit of watching pornography day by day, quit it. Once every week solely.

(ii) STEP 2: NoFap and a better routine (to cut back your dependency on pornography): Some people begin their femdom reboot straight with NoFap. The issue is, it- as a rule- builds up sexual tension longing for a femdom experience (thus my suggestion of first getting rid of that).

The community boards and articles on the NoFap, Your Brain on Porn and Porn Reboot web sites have tons of knowledge and motivation on how and why you should consider NoFap.

Life changing habits to rekindle your complete masculinity:

You probably have continuously binge watched any type of pornography- let alone femdom- chances are high your sexual urges control you. I have a look at NoFap as an opportunity to get over that. Look at it as you life changing transformation (I’ve talked about for how lengthy, below).

I am assuming you are not submissive to girls, apart kind when you’re behind the screen. No matter where you stand with that, giving up femdom addiction can be onerous until you start coming across as a extra "alpha" male. Here are a couple of habits that I’d advocate together with the NoFap effort:

- A better sleep schedule (sleeping and waking early, preferably by sunrise. Embracing the human body’s naturally photosensitive cardiac rhythm will repair too much internally. Try it)
- Cold showers twice a day (various advantages)
- Eat right (High protein, first rate quantities of unsaturated fats, solely fibrous carbs- better muscle growth, better hormonal health, decrease body fats)
- Make some form of train part of your every day behavior (ideally one thing extra masculine corresponding to weight training, crossfit, MMA, boxing, and so on)
- Grow your hair and beard (ever seen a male lion without its mane?) Take the supplements I’ve mentioned under, and bodily apply some mix of coconut and castor oil, or an off the shelf beard oil, in case you have trouble with rising a full beard.
- Supplement: Multivitamin (I’d advocate Opti Men by Optimum Nutrition) Various benefits.
- Supplement: Ginseng (Better testosterone ranges, beard growth, higher muscular hypertrophy, and extra)
- Supplement: Omega 3-6-9 (Better hormonal health)
- Supplement: ZMA by Optimum Nutrition (Better hormonal health and testosterone)
- Reduce your dependence on any other addictive habits. Cut it out and re-introduce it in moderation. They all have comparable psychological stimuli. (extreme smartphone usage, music, cigarettes, television, binge consuming, and many others)
- Make some form of psychological stimulation part of your day by day behavior (studying, analytical puzzles, and the like) Feel your psychological capability and memory improve as you fix these other habits. It is not a placebo, but a really actual improvement owing to improving neurogenesis.
- Ignore enterprise/ work/ associates/ relationship associated stress. Don't let that trigger a relapse. Mentally distance these external engagements out of your soulfulness within. Meditation is a method you might want to think about for this. Every different day for a begin, should be good.
- Practice intentional solitude. Hearken to all the voices in your head, and do what you might want to, to deal with them.
- Should you keep residence and spend an excessive amount of time on the internet watching trash, go out more usually. Preferably a drive along areas with tons of nature or wildlife to attach with.
These are among the issues that I've put to make use of, and may- in concept- benefit you. Besides these, find other habits by your self that will provide help to rekindle your internal masculinity.

How lengthy will all this take?

These two steps, more so the second one, is part of the lifelong quest of many a males, to be the best variations of themselves. For as long as you are on this side of the grave, you'll be on this quest- it's a never ending process. All I can say is that someplace along this quest of being a better man, you will certainly have the ability to rid your self of the ‘destructive’ addiction to femdom and pornography. For those who really need me to place a quantity to it, I’d say anyplace between 6 months to a yr, for an entire mental shift.

Relapses:

Relapses occur to the best of us. Depending on the severity of your addiction, you will most definitely go through tens of relapses before you're able to maintain a long sufficient of a streak of not just NoFap however all the other habits above, to really feel in better control of your self. I don’t know of any secret here. Good previous persistence is what works. Remember the idea of behavioral reinstatement- each time you strive again, you are more likely to succeed owing to your past experience at making an attempt it. Every strive counts. Just don’t stop on yourself.

Wet goals whereas on NoFap

When you've got by no means tried NoFap, you would possibly expertise a wet dream or two in your first month of abstinence. It’s regular. They'll go away, as you apply longer. Rather it is an efficient sign that your body is regaining its capacity to get off to things aside from being humiliated by some unhappy cunt on the web.

(iii) STEP 3: Finding a wholesome relationship: I have lived in over 10 nations now, spanning across Central Asia, South East Asia, the Middle East and Europe. I inform you, third-wave feminism has ruined women’s ideals in all places. With ‘divorce rapes’ at file highs, settling in with a girl is a dangerous gamble for many younger males. You don’t mention your priorities right here, but all I can say is that the human physique naturally wants this intimacy with a feminine, to not get lost to deviant sexual tastes in its absence. If you can, discover a lady who can assist you on this journey of being a better man, and having a wholesome intercourse life- that can be preferrred. In case your personal beliefs and morals allows for it, a more causal relationship could be another to that. If you haven't any luck in any respect, and your morals and the legalities of where you live permit this, go out with an escort or a prostitute. Coming from the background of a femdom addict, your physique will need this female intimacy to regain absolute masculinity. Hopefully this shouldn’t be an issue once you have your beard all grown out (ladies are going to take a look at you want an exclusive species from amongst a background of betas, trust me).

Apart from a relationship, the only different options I know of can be (a) one thing like following the MGTOW motion, or (b) religious celibacy.

I will depart this third aspect for you to decide. But know that you'll have to seek out some other outlet in your sexual energy to prevent a pent up relapse to femdom after years of abstinence.

Where does religion fit in to assist quit addictions:

Since you will have talked about that you're not too explicit about a particular faith, I am going to respect that, and not play an evangelist. I have- for some time- studied numerous theologies. Eastern faiths (Buddhism, Hinduism). Abrahamic faiths (Christianity, Judaism and Islam). Hellenic philosophies (Stoicism, Pyrronism). What I have come to find is that although they reference the divine with completely different names and depictions, there's great unity in the best way it is characterized. Weather it's Jesus, Karma, Buddha, Brahma, Zeus or Allah- no matter one would possibly confide it- one must know that there is a higher type of consciousness beyond our notion. That’s all. It is for that motive that I by no means push people to a specific religion, but rather ask them to turn back to any one in all their alternative. Your belief system sounds- to me- like Ietism (aka ‘somethingism). Look it up. Panpsychism and Stoicism are two different philosophies that I’d counsel you examine, primarily based on you existing perception. They aren't religions per say, however fairly philosophies that you may reside by.

The reason why I like to recommend individuals to show back to their very own faiths is manifold. In short; as a result of I think there's great energy one experiences when he has faith in a larger, rightful consciousness. It keeps one going in all odds. Religion also helps one rationalize against issues that could be ‘sinful’ thus preventing them from indulging in sure acts on moral grounds- which will be a really efficient motivator.

Reading recommendations to reconnect together with your spirituality:

I’d suggest you learn ‘Siddhartha’ by the German writer Herman Hesse, and ‘Meditations’ by the Greek Philoshopher Marcus Aurelius. They don't promote any specific religion, but speak about finding one’s spirituality in a very secular method.

Reading ideas to give up addictions:

(1) Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction

(2) Treating Pornography Addiction: The Essential Tools for Recovery

(3) Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain

Reading solutions to regain your masculinity:

(1) Jordan Peterson: 12 Rules for all times: An Antidote to Chaos

(2) The War Against Boys: How Misguided Policies are Harming Our Young Men

(3) Why Men Earn More: The Startling Truth Behind the Pay Gap and What Women Can Do About It

It assume I will finish right here.

Feel free to write down to me with any questions you might have. Progress updates are welcome too. It's at all times helpful to have somebody to talk to along the journey.